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Emotional Control in Sports: Mastering Confidence in Competition  

Updated: Nov 21

"My philosophy is to not be scared of anyone.

If I play well, great; if I don't, I learn from the match and move on.” 

— Saina Nehwal


In sports, emotions often run high. Whether it’s the thrill of a close match or the anxiety of facing a skilled opponent, emotions can easily distract athletes and make them lose focus on what truly matters. When athletes allow emotions to dominate, their confidence takes a hit, and their performance can suffer.  

The good news. Emotional control is a skill that can be developed, just like any other part of your game. Here are some practical strategies to stay calm, confident, and focused in competition.

 

Tips for Staying Confident Under Pressure  

1.  Define It, Feel It, Own It  

Start by naming and accepting your emotions. For instance, say to yourself, “I’m scared because my opponent looks skilled and athletic.” Recognizing your feelings helps to take away their power and puts you back in control.  


2.  Reset with Breathing Techniques  

Deep, controlled breathing is a powerful way to manage nerves. Try the “4-4-4-4 method”: breathe in deeply for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and hold for 4 seconds, repeat at least three to four rounds. This simple exercise can reset your mindset, much like hitting the restart button on a video game.  


3.  Focus on Your Hard Work

Remind yourself of the countless hours you’ve spent preparing. Reflect on your past successes and what you’ve improved. Say something like, “I’ve worked hard on my serves, and when I stick to my game, I play well.” Confidence grows when you trust your preparation and see both successes and failures as valuable learning moments.   


4.  Stick to Your Game Plan 

Keep your mind on your strategy. A simple mantra like, “Stay aggressive, move my feet, and focus on my side of the net,” can bring your attention back to what you can control and keep distractions at bay.  


Examples of being focused vs distracted:

- Focused: “I stuck to my plan of staying aggressive, and my opponent made mistakes under pressure.”  

- Distracted: “I got flustered by their quick returns and abandoned my strategy, but now I know to stay disciplined.”  


5.  Adopt a Short-Term Memory 

The Ted Lasso 10-second memory. Like a goldfish, forget your emotional highs and lows quickly. Celebrate your wins briefly and embrace any mistakes as learning moments, then move on. Dwelling on emotions, both good and bad, only holds you back from the next point, play, or opportunity.  


Examples of being focused vs distracted:

- Focused: “I nailed a tough serve in the third set and celebrated with a fist pump—but I immediately refocused for the next point.”  

- Distracted: “I missed an easy shot and got frustrated, which snowballed into more mistakes. Next time, I’ll let it go faster.”  


6.  Get Physical to Stay Loose  

Use physical actions to channel your emotions positively. For instance, in between points, dance a little or shake out your arms to release tension. If you’re playing a continuous-action sport like basketball, hustle back on defense and brush off mistakes—literally (e.g., by brushing your shoulder as you run back) and mentally.  


Examples of being focused vs distracted:

- Focused: “In a badminton match, I danced around between points to stay loose and confident.”  

 - Distracted: “In a basketball game, I got stuck in my head after a missed layup and didn’t hustle back on defense. Now, I use a quick shoulder brush to reset.”  


7.  Reflect and Learn Post-Competition  

After the match, take time to review your performance. Acknowledge what went well and pinpoint areas for improvement. Then, build a plan to address those challenges in your next practice. This reflection turns failures into growth opportunities.  


Examples of being focused vs distracted:

- Focused: “I’m proud of how I kept my energy high throughout the game. It helped me outlast my opponent.”  

 - Distracted: “I let their early lead get to me and didn’t recover mentally. I’ll practice resetting faster in training.”  

 

The Big Picture  

Emotional control isn’t about suppressing your feelings; it’s about managing them so they don’t interfere with your performance. By addressing your emotions, resetting your focus, sticking to your plan, and reflecting afterwards, you can turn nerves into confidence and distractions into determination.  


As Saina Nehwal wisely said, every match is an opportunity to play your best—and if things don’t go your way, you can learn and move forward stronger than before.  


For personalized guidance on emotional control and building your competition plan, reach out to us. Let’s unlock your best performance together! www.epicsportpsychology.com


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